You Didn't Reach the Goal, But You're Still a Success

By , SparkPeople Blogger
Instead of being thankful for the things I can do, it’s much easier for me to get frustrated about the things I can’t.  I’d love to be able to run an 8 (or even 9!) minute pace comfortably.  I’d love to be naturally flexible without having to work at it, and it would be great if I had endless energy for my early morning workouts.  I demand a lot from my body, and honestly, it gives me a lot in return.  I think I need to take a more positive attitude towards my body and my accomplishments.  How about you?
It makes me tired just thinking about all of the things I do on a daily basis.  I take care of three wonderful (but exhausting) children.  Most days I’m up at 5 a.m., either working out or getting work done before the kids get up.  I try to make the most of my days, whether it’s getting things done at home, having fun with the kids, or working on something for SparkPeople.  I know there are thousands of women out there just like me, and many with even more responsibilities on their plates.  Yet, I still find reasons to criticize my lack of progress or the fact that my body doesn’t look like it did before I had three kids. 
Every day I see posts on the site from members who are frustrated.  Perhaps they aren’t losing weight as quickly as they’d like (“I’ve only lost 10 pounds instead of 15 like I’d hoped”), or their 5K training is progressing slower than expected (“I should be walking 20 minutes by now but I can only walk for 10”).  I understand what it’s like when your body isn’t doing exactly what you’d like it to do.  But I also think it’s important not to overlook what you have accomplished.  As long as you’re continuing down the path to a healthier lifestyle, is it okay if it takes you a little longer to get there?  I think so. 
If you can’t Be Your Own Cheerleader or your Own Best Motivator, who else will?  Maybe it’s time to start celebrating all of the wonderful things you can do, instead of being so hard on yourself when you fall short.  Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to challenge your body and keep working toward bigger life goals.  But if you didn’t reach the time goal you set for your last race, or you still don’t have the body of a supermodel despite reaching your weight loss goal, did you fail?  Not at all.  I’d still consider you to be a success.
What do you think? 

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Good article. Being on SparkPeople for 3 1/2 years I compete against myself and no one else. I've learned when I haven't reached one of my mini goals I don't beat myself up, but tweak my program a little and then try a little harder. I do keep an eye on other people to see what they are doing and maybe incorporate some of their ideas into my program. Report
CKEYES1 4/9/2020
Set backs are to be expected. So let's not get down on ourselves Report
NENEBFIT 3/29/2020
Since I started this journey with my goal being healthier, rather than a certain weight, I have found joy in all the NSV’S. That hasn’t meant I will stay where I am. But, I like that I’m not down on myself. Nothing can derail me quicker than a negative attitude with myself. If I kept feeling I was failing, eventually I would quit trying. I’m okay with baby steps. I don’t even know my goal weight yet, but I figure I will know when I get there. Thanks for the article. Report
TZH715 2/14/2020
This article gives me motivation . I am still a success means a lot to me. Report
RO2BENT 2/14/2020
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Needed to read this article today. Report
KITTYHAWK1949 1/12/2020
I love what I have done except for the set back I let happen due to being upset about my son. Bot I've gotten back on track and trying to up my game a bit. Thanks for the positive words. Report
RAZZOOZLE 9/26/2019
thank you Report
RUTHIEBEAR 7/20/2019
WIsh I could get to this place. It is a struggle Report
Needed to read this today. Thanks Report
What a great reminder to celebrate how far we have come & not to berate ourselves for what we have not accomplished! Thank you! Report
Thank You for the helpful article............. Report
good points Report
Great article Report
Thank you for the article. Report
Thank you for your motivated article. I makes me feel much better about what I have managed to accomplish. Report
it's ALL a long row to hoe. Report
You are really talking about me! Since joining SP I lost 37 pounds. I wanted to lose at least another 10 to be at my ultimate goal. I have made a habit of drinking minimum 10 glasses plus of water per day, I weigh and measure my intake, I exercise every day, I am more aware of what I am eating and try to eat healthy. I rarely eat out. and yet I feel like I am not pushing my body enough to shed those 10 pounds. I really needed this blog today.

Thank you so much for all you do to inspire and encourage!! Report
I've just recovered from a ruptured aneurysm. In the three months since, I've found out how important little achievements matter. Each step is important, don't sell yourself short. You will get there. Smile, one more step closer. Report
You must know me!

I'm always beating myself up for not reaching my ideal weight. I've come a long way, and I need to pat myself on the back more often.

Thanks for reminding me to celebrate where I am! Report
Needed to read this today. I am just down thinking I will never get to my goal. The perfectionist in me only saw how much I had to lose rather than the fact that I have lost 25 pounds so far. So I am stuck right now. My body is adjusting and it will start losing when it is ready. My job is to track and exercise and let my body do its thing when it is ready. I also need to love myself on the way to goal... every minute. Report
Self Acceptance...SUCH a challenge for myself and many here among our SparkFamily. I loved this webpage shared by BAZOOKABOBCAT:

Cheers to our AWESOME SELVES!!

Don Report
I completely agree. We're way too hard on ourselves when it comes to losing weight and eating right. We should be proud of our accomplishments however small. Report
"Not sure I'm convinced here. What is the source of motivation for change for a person who is thrilled with their present situation?"

Frankly, I'm thrilled that I went from struggling to carry a 20 pound bag of dog food to handling a thirty pound bag with ease and being able to tumble a fifty pound bag of feed out of my car trunk into the wheelbarrow, trundle it into the barn and tip it into the feed bin.

I'm thrilled that I'm down 40 pounds and two pants sizes, although I'm still ten pounds from goal.

I'm thrilled that at age 63, I had the courage to take on the challenges of a hobby farm and all the physical work involved. Don't tell me that moving 80-pound bales of hay isn't exercise!

Does all this mean I'm complacent? No, it just means these are landmarks on the way to a healthier me. Report
Thank you sooooooomuch for this great article today. Report
Awesome advice!!! Thanks Report
Great advice that I will try to take to heart when thing don't go my way. Thanks!!! Report
Great article!!!! I have learned to celebrate my successes--no matter how small I may think they are, they are still successes. Those will get me to my ultimate goal and keep me going past that goal. Thanks for reminding all of us to celebrate ourselves. I believe that I am my greatest cheerleader--who else is with me 24/7? Report
Amen and amen. =) Report
Down is down - I always say - even if it's only one ounce.

Keep on keepin' on. Report
Thanks for the reminder to be grateful for the little things. Needed that. Report
This is a good message that everyone needs to remember. You don't have to reach your goal to have accomplished something. Report
Thanks. Report
WOW!! Have you been following me around, Jen? Great article! Just what I needed tonight! Enjoy your kids and have a great weekend! Keep it Sparking! Report
Just like BLKLLY this couldn't of come at a better time. I needed that little boost. I'm going to focus on the positive, the things I have achieved and not so much on the negative, things I can't do. I'm saving your blog, so I can go back and read it when I need that little boost again. Thanks Report
This could not have came at a better time; thanks! Report
Great article. Report
A thank you from me too. Sometimes I do forget that I am progressing, however painstakingly slow it is.
Thanks for the reminder. It is so easy to me down when things aren't progressing as quickly as we would like but as long as we are moving in the right direction we are a success.
I love this quote: Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be. We can all get there! Just enjoy the little successes along the way! Report
That's a great reminder that many of us need. It is hard sometimes to be positive even though we may not be where we wanted to be. Some of that has to do with setting unrealistic goals. We need to take a good look at those goals and make sure we are setting realistic, down-to-earth goals. Report
Thank you so much for a great reminder Report
great post: we have to remember that we are changing lifestyles, not just trying to loose a few pounds. I appreciate the line: 'I demand a lot of my body and it gives me a lot in return' yep! Thanks Report
That was terrific and I needed to be talked to. Now I'll start having this conversation with myself. Thank you.
Lee Report
What a wonderful thing for us all to remember! Report
You're absolutely right, thanks for the motivation to keep going even when progress is slow in coming! In the middle of my workouts, when I think I can't jog up hill for another second, I tell myself "this is good for me, I am getting healthy" and I find I can keep going a little longer. I can't wait to reach my goals, even if it takes a little longer than I feel that it should take. Report
I've lost over 70lbs,,, I just think of "what if I'd NOT done a THING???? I would of GAINED MORE !!" This is like $$$ in the BANK !! Only it's BETTAH for it's for my health :) . GO ME !! GO MEEEEeeee !! my health is spiraling downward and FAST, but IMAGINE if I hadn't lose this weight, and the MORAH to come :) what a MESS I'd be? Again,, GO DIANESE !! GO !!!!

So I guess you can say "I am positive" about what I've accomplished. Instead of looking at it as "What I CAN'T DO" look at it as "Looked what I HAVE DONE". WOOHOOOOOO !!

THANKS For the nice blog. GR8 remindah Report
Checking and tracking my morning pulse has made it easier to see the fitness progress I'm making even though the scale moves slowly and my times are slower than I'd like. Celebrate the successes however and whenever they come! Report
I'm always pushing myself and forget where I'm at until someone guesses my age 10+ years younger or women at the gym tell me how much I inspire them with my Olympic lifts. Report
Not sure I'm convinced here. What is the source of motivation for change for a person who is thrilled with their present situation? Report