EH932011
So sorry to hear of your recent loss of your husband. We at SP and bead bugs team are here to support you and to cheer you up and keep you company. Don't give up and keep going.
GLORYB83
Thanks for the welcome back Sharon, it's good to see you again too! Hope you're enjoying as nice weather as we have been . . . we're in a heat wave at the moment but only for another day or so. Take care, see you on the team! 3131 days ago
Yeah, the quizz wasn't really asking if I loved my body, it was asking if I had healthy attitude about my *weight*--and I actually do, I think. I mean, I'm not happy that I'd gained about 50 pounds since hurting my hip, and I'm not happy to be at an unhealthy body weight, but I don't look in the mirror and think that I'm a horrible person because I have fat thighs and a flabby belly. And I guess that focus kind of makes sense, since Sparks is predominantly a weight loss site. But my love/hate for my body has little to do with how much I weigh--that might factor in, but I'm much harder on myself if, say, I try to do something I feel like I should be able to do (rollerblading, running errands, whatever) and my body isn't able to handle it. Still, the sparks articles about building a healthy body image are still helpful, because they teach you to be vigilant about how we think about our own body. We wouldn't tell a good friend that they are a failure as a human being because they can't walk 2 miles; why do I think it's okay to say that to myself? Because it's not. So I make a concerted effort to stamp down on those kinds of mental criticisms and instead focus on what I *can* do and being positive. Maybe I can't walk as far as I want but I can walk farther than I could 3 years ago, for example!
And yeah, a lot of questions none of the answers really accurate. For example, I don't eat always eat when I'm hungry--but I'm also not eating when I'm bored. I'm eating because I know I need to eat regularly and that my body isn't so good at remembering to let me know that I need food, for example. And while I rarely eat until I'm overfull, I don't really stop because my body gives me a sign that it's satisified--I usually eat whatever is the set amount I intended to eat (say, 2 cups of soup) and unless my body gives me a sign that it's still hungry, that's it. But my hunger cues are kind of skewed. 3198 days ago