"All or nothing thinking" will get you into trouble!
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
In the past, I would often fall victim to "all or nothing" thinking. I would set myself up for a huge task/commitment, then the minute I could not achieve one small piece of it -- I would throw my hands up in disgust and say, "forget it!" "I just cannot do anything right!"
Needless to say, I did not achieve any significant forward motion!
But something hit me yesterday. I had hoped to have a "perfect" day with lap band guidelines. The reality of my day, however, just did not allow that to occur, fullyl 100%.
I finally decided last night -- I don't have to be perfect to be a success!
I realized I do get kudos for trying to make the best of a bad situation. For example, I cannot do salads (my band won't let the salad go through) or white meat chicken -- and I was a passenger in a car that was stopping at Burger King for lunch. What to do? I decided to get a kids meal (non-fat milk, small fries, and cheese burger with no bun). I tracked the calories (did not eat too many of the fries, so that was good!).
I had to work late (unexpectedly) and I could sense my band was tight -- so I chose 2 plain hot dogs, no buns, as my dinner. Hot dogs ALWAYS go down!! Not the best choice, fat-wise, or sodium-wise -- but I could feel my inner critique start to badger me. Why did you choose that? What a bad idea, I scolded myself aftewards. The self-hatred was coming back... I could feel my desire for goodies start to surface. I eyed a Starbucks and a Baskin Robbins store on my way home..... I could turn into either of these establishments and "feel better" instantly. But what about the repurcussions?? I decided instead to shout outloud "NO!" - the heck with those drivers next to me thinking I am a crazy lady!
I stepped back and looked at the big picture. I have been known to eat very few fat grams in a day -- to the point where I almost eliminated all fats from my diet (which is bad, healthwise). So for me to have a "high fat" day is unusual. I need to recognize this and move on!
Yes, the choices were not stellar -- but they could have been WAY WAY worse!
So today I am doing better, and trying to not focus on being perfect. I can do this, by giving myself permission to screw up, and then get right back into the game.