NOBLE53

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Warts and all!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

From Spark:

Communicate openly. Holding in your thoughts and feelings about stressful situations like your work, relationships or parenting won't help you deal with stress or find solutions. Open up to a good friend.


This is probably one of the hardest things I need to learn - telling someone when I'm having trouble. I've spent nearly a lifetime only letting people see the happy me - taught to me by a mom who was like Pollyanna in nature and a step-father who punished first and asked questions later. I never let anyone know when I was disappointed, troubled, unhappy or had made a mistake. I learned to be very small in the world and to let those that knew me think I was perfectly happy. (I believed they would leave me if they knew I had problems or needed help)

So, today I need to learn to let people see all of me and know that its okay. Its okay to have prooblems, to have a bad day, to ask for help. I've always known I'm not perfect, and I'm pretty damned sure my friends know it too! LOL

What I'm trying to say is that this is not a smooth journey, and I know I will face dips and bumps along the way. When I hit one of those ruts, I will do my best to share it with you instead of just going away as I have in the past. I know this is the right thing to do so that I can 'flesh out' my Self as I 'flesh down' my body! I want to be a whole person - warts and all! And when the day comes that I am challenged to let you all know I'm having trouble, I'll be ever so glad of your friendship!

Cheers and Blessings, my darlins'!
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  • KKONOSKE
    Hi Noble! One thing is for sure. When you are having those dips and bumps along the way I am probably right there with you . You can vent to me anytime. I too have always been known as the happy one. I have even had people ask me what was wrong if I wasn't smiling for a split second. It sure gets tiring doesn't it? Keep up the good work.

    Kelly emoticon
    3655 days ago
  • KASEYCOFF
    Thank you for writing this down, Noble - and you can count on me to give you tea & sympathy, or cheer you on from the sidelines. Or both! :-)
    3655 days ago
  • BELLACUDDLES
    I can relate to your blog too. My mom still picks up the carpet and sweets people's problems under it!!!!!! She would rather "avoid" than deal with! Thanks for the comments, and I am right there with ya!!
    Blessings to you too!!

    Barbara
    3656 days ago
  • LJCANNON
    Don't rock the Boat---Never let anyone see the pain---They will leave you if they knew what you are REALLY like.........

    All of those 'Rules' are like tapes that play over & over in my head. They resulted in my building walls to make sure that NO ONE got too close.
    emoticon It is time to burn those Tapes.
    3657 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6687446
    You sound just like me! Camouflage. Blend in with the environment. Hide out in the cave. My MO was to retreat and isolate. I learned that if you do that often enough and long enough, when you finally emerge there's nobody around to care. So you keep showing up and sharing, and we will keep caring!

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    3657 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/25/2010 9:23:55 PM
  • JAKEANDNELLIE
    This is definitely a bumpy, uneven road we are traveling on our journey BUT we are traveling with friends. Don't hesitate to ask for support or help!
    You have many friends who want only the best for you and care about you!
    Sheila emoticon emoticon
    3657 days ago
  • CAROLYNVIL
    You are on the right path. keep up the good work.
    3657 days ago
  • ENUFF81020
    Hi there,
    Bumps in hte road happen in all of the roads to life...it is improper to pretend they don't exist and it is improper to let them get in our way. I love SP because we all work together, using each other's moments to boost us up when we need it or to help out when someone else needs it. Helping others is a way to firm up the things we value and the things that work for us. It is a win-win-win situation. You are on the right track with the things you blogged about here, but you need to realize that we are all here to help smooth out the road and make the bumps easier to navigate.

    Thanks for stopping by my page. I'm honored to add you as one of my SparkFriends and please, let me know if there is any way that I can lend a hand on your journey to a healthier place. emoticon emoticon
    3657 days ago
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