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Almost COMPLETELY discouraged with Sparks.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Today I asked a simple question on the message boards. A variation of a couple questions I have seen posted before and got told I didn't belong here.

WOW. Now that's some motivation towards my goals right there! (in case the sarcasm didn't translate THAT WAS SARCASM)

This site isn't for people who want to learn nutrition, the proper way to exercise and build supportive relationships as you work on bettering your health? Huh!? Guess I was wrong.

I'm not here to lose a ton of weight. I already lost 70+ lbs due to an illness. I'm here to tone, become more active (something ALL my doctors are harassing me about), and learn how to make healthy food options. All working towards the possibility of better health through a healthier foundation. All of which I thought (AND MY DOCTORS thought as they suggested this site) Sparks would provide.

At the core of it I'm just like everyone else here. I am having a hard enough time with all of this, for me this is a major setback. I really feel like saying screw it and not bothering anymore. What's the point?

Ani

**Edited note: I posted a question on the Diet & Nutrition Message boards asking how to switch from not getting enough calories with unhealthy food choices to getting enough calories while making healthy choices. And how to avoid gaining a bunch of weight while making the change if I was unable to workout due to health. Dietitian Becky told me this wasn't the site for me I didn't need to lose weight and to talk to specialists. My whole life is doctor specialists, feels like I have 1 from every medical dept. In fact my doctors recommended this site due to how many great articles it has, its food/fitness trackers, and its great support network. I'm getting yelled at by my docs for not eating well and not getting enough exercise (one stupid doctor had me laying in bed for a year totally sedatary). So I joined SP and I've been pretty excited about it until I'm told by a "SP person" that this isn't the place for me. I honestly don't know what to do at this point. I'm ready to throw in the towel and just live with being sick 99.9% of the time.
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  • LAKERSGURU
    BREWMASTERBILL... U r a MASTER ANALYST as well, as a BEER EXPERT....

    Ur offering to this young LADY was pretty-much right on point..... I CONCUR with U maybe, about 75% on this one..... Keep giving that good advice GUY....

    Cheers.....
    3867 days ago
  • LAKERSGURU
    ANIJOD....

    When one has a DIRE NEED, then they must take the GOOD with the BAD sometimes, other-wise no PROGRESS will be made...

    NOTHING is 100% POSITIVE all of the time....

    I had a similar experience here as well - but I've managed to move-on, and to find added benefits elsewhere....

    Take what u can from this experience - and then MOVE ON....

    Cheers....
    3867 days ago
  • LAKERSGURU
    BREWMASTERBILL... U r a MASTER ANALYST as well, as a BEER EXPERT....

    Ur offering to this young LADY was pretty-much right on point..... I CONCUR with U maybe, about 75% on this one..... Keep giving that good advice GUY....

    Cheers.....
    3867 days ago
  • BREWMASTERBILL
    I had a similar experience. Sometimes SP people are confrontational and I'm not quite sure why, but no big deal. They're human as well, they have bad days, they make mistakes. I would let it go.

    But let me share some experience that hopefully you'll find useful. I've found that posting to the "main" message boards is mostly fruitless. It's hopelessly noisy and off topic with little targeted information. I've stuck to specialty groups that are targeted to the information I'm after.
    3868 days ago
  • HEALTH4LIFE10
    Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Did not see your question, so I hope what I say is helpful. I have only been on this website for a couple of months, and although it is happening quite slowly for me, I am seeing a difference in weight as well as the toning of my body. I too have had to fine tune their recommendations a bit to suit my needs. I think the first and foremost thing you need to focus on is eating healthy - a balanced diet with the right amount of fats, etc. They have great exercise plans (which I have had to fine tune to suit my injuries). I am not always healthy enough to exercise either. What I am rambling on about is that there are great recipes, eating plans and exercise plans on this website for you to explore. I don't necessarily follow their eating plan, but it certainly helps me to balance my meals in a healthy way, and to be aware of what I am eating, and how much. There are great people to encourage and support you. Don't let one person, whatever their intentions were, to deter you from becoming more healthy!!!!! emoticon
    3868 days ago
  • MOMM4LIFE
    I ditto all the positive comments from the Spark members above. When I first started I too asked a specific question about working out because I had a prior back surgery. I didn't get any negative responses, but the response was check with your doctor, etc. So what I did was - start researching the message boards and spark pages to find buddies who had similiar interests, goals, current weight and weight loss goals, etc.

    Don't let those comments make you give up on your journey to healthy living. It takes a village and you can definitely find a spark village for encouragement.
    3869 days ago
  • PONYFARMER
    Just because some is a a "SP person" does not mean that they know everything. You have to just let those comments roll off your back. They are NOT experts, but they are just policing the site. And do not take this the wrong way, to keep it free of people who are selling this or that quick fix.

    I belive that the comment was made without full knowledge and possible they were trying to keep you from getting DOCTOR info on a site that is made to generalize.

    Don't take it the wrong way, just leave it there and do not leave, you will find some great things here to help you, you just have to pick and choose.

    You can do this and what doctor has someone lay in bed for a full year. After my knee surgery, and I must say I was shocked, I was up and walkig the same day. When at home recouping, they gave me a machine to keep my knee moving while I recovered in bed, but I still got up everyday and walked to the kitchen, to the potty room and just to sit in the sun a bit. I recovered living alone in my house on a horse ranch with two dogs and three cats. I was grateful my neighbor feed the horses for me.

    Hang in there!
    3869 days ago
  • JUST_SIMONE
    I also haven't seen the post, but I'll chip in what I've observed on the message boards. Sometimes when people post really specific questions about specific health concerns they have, the SP people recommend seeing a nutritionist or a doctor to fine tune their diet or workout plan. SP is a great resource for tracking your food and getting general information, but the recommendations aren't tailored for everyone. I've done my own fine-tuning of my diet (had to eat well above what SP recommended for me as well as more carbs in order to lose weight). It's possible that the responses you received were trying to say something like that. Or they were just being jerks. There certainly are plenty of jerks everywhere, on Sparkpeople, on other websites, and in real life. Don't give up because of a couple of bad seeds.
    3869 days ago
  • CLAIREMZM
    Stick with it Ani! All the comments before me have been very supportive, and I hope mine is, too. I've never met you, but you and I do share a common goal, as do the majority of people here. As far as the comment from the nutrition person, the only thing I can think of (without having seen the conversation for myself) is that she somehow misinterpreted what you said.

    In any case, we're with you. I hope you have stayed on long enough to read the encouragement you have received. emoticon
    3869 days ago
  • TINYC887
    wow, that comment should never have been made, we are all here for different reasons but in the end we all just want to be healthy. Don't let this person discourage you from sp
    3869 days ago
  • F8CONE8
    Oh my goodness! I hope this never happens again. How sad that someone actually said that. Yes, we all have health and fitness in mind. You have lost a lot of weight and your questions are perfectly valid. Eating a healthy diet is absolutely part of keeping it off and staying healthy. Hugs to you!
    3869 days ago
  • GETFITTER7
    I'm so sorry that you feel this way...I just came in from a walk/jog on my trail. And I was seeing the results through the journey...yes this weight of mine did not come off as fast as I would have liked, but the weight for me is just one of the benefits. You are welcome to visit my sparkpage and read my blogs. The little differences in my changes, the mental focus that I feel. All the little things, as simple as being able to tie your shoes with out being breathless.
    Don't let one comment discourage you. There are all different ways that this will work. Everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. YOU are worth the effort of reaching your goal! I wish you well in your decision, only you have the power to make it. There are many great people here at Sparks!
    3869 days ago
  • LLEWIS6879
    Why should one comment derail you like that? If you've survived all this illness, then why would you let ONE STUPID COMMENT FROM ONE STUPID person take away the healthy changes you are trying to make for yourself?

    Come on! Stick to it! Let that silliness go!
    You CAN do this!
    emoticon
    3869 days ago
  • MASCHMID121
    Definitely don't let one person discourage you. This is my first week on this site and I've been nervous about posting questions worried I'll get negative responses back, but so far so good! I'm working towards not only joining teams that look supportive to EVERYONE, but also finding a group of supportive SP friends. This website is about creating a healthy lifestyle which is what you want. IMO, you belong here!
    3869 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6410386
    Please do not let what one person said ruin a good thing. This is a great place to be and there are people here to support whatever you need. We all are different people and we all have different situations and goals. Stick with this site and find the support you do need!
    3869 days ago
  • BUGGYS
    I agree with FAIRVIEWBONNIE...can't comment unless I know what was said...there is so much info on this site that your questions should be able to be answered by someone on this site.One of my teams, Trainer James was booted off the site because he was telling people to go to his Facebook page...what's wrong with that?...any help, anywhere is a bonus so stay with SP and search for you answers!
    3869 days ago
  • HAPPYONE331
    Easier said than done I know, but don't take personally what one person (out of how many?) said.
    3869 days ago
  • MERRYMARY42
    I want to lose weight, but my biggest goal is to be healthy, learn a new nutrition program, firm up (lots) and I am, and I get so much support from everyone, Give us another chanch emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3869 days ago
  • MELLABELL1
    You know you are here for you not anyone else I am fairly new here also but i do know that this dose work . Everybody isn't going to be your buddy and that's OK . We all do have one thing incoming is that we want to get healthier and learn how to do it. And yes you are in the right place. You know it is easy to quit something than to work at it . And if someone thinks that you dont need to be here that is there problem.Just reminder you only need to take what you can use leave the rest behind if there is something that that upset you here just let it go. I hope that this helps you because it has me thanks for letting me share. Carmella. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3869 days ago
  • MTNBUM
    Could you give more details on what happened? To me it seems weird that a website that has lots of pages and links covering fitness, wellness, lifestyle centers and your health would be totally focused on the weight loss aspect and not be helping you with your general health issues. If it was a single bone headed member commenting then I would say forget it. I once had a member of a Buddhist blog tell me to "shoot my brains out"...you just can't let the nuts get to you. Seems like you have had lots of supportive comments from other members so maybe you can get the help you need from them. wish you the best, and hope you feel better.
    3869 days ago
  • THEBESTME2011
    don't give up or become discouraged! if your experiences with this website have been mostly bad ones, then find something else to motivate and educate you. but if you have had mostly good experiences, then brush this off. remain positive and dont let others discourage you! emoticon
    3869 days ago
  • CDGOLDILOCKS
    I am sorry you didn't get the support you were seeking. Maybe a more supportive group would be better. I would hate to see you give up, as this site has many great features.
    3869 days ago
  • FAIRVIEWBONNIE
    It is hard to comment when you do not know what it is that you said. Are you saying one person said something or SP said something? If it is one person, move on...they are not all of us.
    3869 days ago
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