Abstainer or Moderator ?

I read an interesting article in Good Housekeeping about how you look at food and your way of reaching and maintaining your goal. Some people just can't seem to " eat just one" and for them it seems best to just completely stay away from certain foods( their trigger foods) They are the abstainers ( I don't eat dessert, fries or what ever). For some, like me, I don't want to think of a future that doesn't include German Chocolate Cake . These kinds of people are the "moderators". They are able to include unhealthy food into their life without it taking over.
The thing about that is,.... when I am using the nutrition tracker, I can eat pretty much anything and stay in my calorie range( which is fairly high since I don't want to lose weight and am active). BUT if I'm not "tracking" I figure my body isn't either and I'll go way overboard and eat way more than I should. How do I get myself to realize that even if I don't enter it into the tracker, it is still going into my BODY?