The Voice In Your Head
Friday, June 08, 2018
I just read another blog where the writer said we are stronger than we think and smarter than we think. That is true but it takes a while to reach that realization. I struggled with being over over 200 pounds for years. I would diet and loose some weight but I could never stick with it. Part of the problem is I lived within a few blocks of my mother and saw her all the time. I would see her on Friday and then again on Wednesday and she would say as I walked in the door it doesn't look like you've lost any weight Well no it's only be a few days since she last saw me. Or she would nag even though I told her when she did that it made me binge eat. You see my father was over weight and that was a big problem between them.
Even after she past away her voice was in my head. It took me years and a lot of self exploration you get her out of my head. I've lost over 100 lbs and keep it off for about 10 years. Now I'm working on the rest of the weight I want to loose.
It is hard enough to loose weight with our own voices we don't need others with their negative words. Especially people like my mother who didn't have a weight problem and could never understand our struggle with weight.
I found two things that worked for me. The first was realizing that food was my drug of choice. I'm depressed, bored, stressed out. Eat. Where my father would drink (he was alcoholic) I found I ate. The second thing I discovered is not to look at the big picture. I would set a goal of just 10 lbs to loose because that was doable as opposed to 150 lbs or so. I would work on those 10 lbs to loose and then keep them off. When I managed to keep them off without regaining for a while I would set a goal of another 10 lbs.
Small steps on this long journey seemed to worked better for me than this huge mountain of weight.
So experiment to see what works or you. Kick all the voices out of your head. Post positive mantra around the house. But most of all realize you are smarter than you think, stronger than you think so you can do anything you want because YOU ARE AWESOME..