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Grieving

Friday, October 25, 2019

I've been working with a counselor on my eating habits and issues. One of the surprising things that we've uncovered is that I have some grieving that I need to do. I have two family members who I've cut out of my life for the sake of my own sanity. One of them I've come to terms with - it happened many years ago & I'm at peace with it. But the other - my youngest daughter - is more difficult. I love her very much, but both she and her significant other are very toxic. The hardest part is that she has children - my grandchildren. For several years I tried to preserve the relationship for the sake of the grandchildren. I wanted them to have some normalcy in their lives - plus of course I loved spending time with them. But eventually it became too much - the gaslighting & manipulating that the adults were doing was finally more than I could handle. After I severed the relationship I tried to just forget about it and move on, but of course it's NOT that easy. So my counselor suggested that I begin journalling - and that is what I'll be using this blog for, at least for awhile.
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  • BESSHAILE
    I'm so sorry that you have this difficult separation in your world. I hope you can reconnect with your grandchildren one day.
    446 days ago
  • RO2BENT
    Writing helps your mind cope
    451 days ago
  • BOOKKEEPER1
    I also had to cut my sisters and stepdad out of my life because they are toxic. I had cut my mom out of my life for 13 years because she was abusive to me growing up. She passed away 6 years ago and I didn't even know that she was sick because my sisters didn't let me know. It's hard sometimes because I can not miss her. It's good that you are going to a counselor to work through some things. I used to journal and that helped me a lot. Have a Great day!
    451 days ago
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