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Sunday, November 03, 2019

I woke up this morning and just didn’t feel the way I usually do, just felt “out of sorts”, did not feel like the “usual me”, low energy, tired although I slept 8 hours, had a problem handling and dealing with issues and it was difficult for me “to do things I needed to do”.

So, I thought about what I should I just give myself a free day from everything and do nothing and give myself time to get back to normal and being me or do I push myself to do things to “get my motor running”? I decided to do some research and write about what I’m feeling to better understand what is happening.

I found some definitions on the internet...

“to feel out of sorts":
- to not feel or be one's normal self - usually temporarily
- to feel somewhat unwell, irritable, unhappy or grouchy - usually temporarily

Related words and phrases:
abstract, blue, brooding, cheerless, cross, crotchety, daydream, distracted, down, ill, indisposed, fretful, gloomy, grouchy, low, off, moody, otherworldly, peaked, peevish, prickly, querulous, sensitive, surly, testy, touchy, unwell, woozy

No, I don’t feel all of those...thank goodness!!

I then found this helpful gave me some insight about what could be going on with me and things for me to think about... maybe it can help you, too.


Feeling Out Of Sorts? Here’s Why It Happens

What’s behind feeling lost and out of sorts? You know, that emotional state you’re in where you feel your life’s out of order. Your friend gives you a call asking you to hang out but you say you’re not in the mood. What does not being in a mood mean exactly?

Your current emotional state is the sum total of the emotional effects of your recent life experiences. Contrary to what many people think, low moods and irritability don’t visit you out of the blue but there is always a reason behind each low emotion that you experience. By digging into the past, you can almost always figure out that reason.

I’m certain you’ve experienced that out of sorts feeling several times in your life. In this post, we explore what’s going on and the possible reasons behind such an emotional state…

Feeling out of sorts and unfinished businesses

When we feel out of sorts, it feels like something is tugging on our psyche. It feels like our mind is going in one direction but is being pulled by some other force in a different direction. Feelings don’t lie. This is exactly what’s happening.

When you are feeling lost and out of sorts, your mind is simply trying to direct your attention to things that are more important than what you are doing now. Your mind is telling you there are unfinished businesses and issues that you should be paying attention to other than to what you are currently doing.

As a result, you will notice that you can never fully concentrate on what you are doing. It’s because a part of your mind is pulling you in another direction. It’s the same as when a parent is trying to work but a child tugs at him repeatedly asking for candy. The parent finds it disturbing and can’t fully focus on the job at hand.

Below are the common reasons behind feeling lost and out of sorts:

1. Loss of control

We all want some degree of control over our lives. We all want our actions to be directed towards some goal and we all want to know where we are going. When unexpected events happen, we tend to lose this sense of control resulting in making us feel out of sorts.

In this case, your mind is making you feel that way so that you can restore your lost sense of control. Let’s say you had an important task to do one morning. But as soon as you woke up, you heard that a relative passed away and so you had to visit their family urgently.

When you return, you’ll remember the unfinished task. This will give you a feeling of loss of control. Had there been no emergency and you did the task on time, you would’ve felt in control of your life. But that isn’t the case and you feel that control has been taken away from you.

At this point, if you engage in any other activity except making up in some way for the lost time, you will feel out of sorts. You will feel out of sorts the whole day if you don’t make a plan for damage control and schedule the task that you missed on a later date at an appropriate time.

Since procrastination almost always results in a feeling of loss of control, it often makes one feel lost and out of sorts.

2. Worry

Worry works in the same way except that it involves some future event instead of a past event. When something about the future is bugging you, you won’t be able to engage all your mental resources on the activity at hand unless you provide your mind with a solution to your worry.

Often when people are worried they’ll act absent-mindedly because their mind is pre-occupied with the thing they are worried about. They’ll say that they are feeling lost and out of sorts and want some alone time. It’s their mind’s way of ensuring that they reflect on their problem so that a possible solution can be worked out.

3. Stress

We live in the age of information overload. Our minds haven’t evolved to handle multiple tabs on a computer screen, several apps running on the phone and grabbing some latest news on the TV simultaneously. Continue such activities for some time and the cognitive overload will almost invariably lead to stress.
At this point you’ll say that you feel out of sorts but it’s just your mind pulling you in the other direction, asking you to take a break from these stressful activities. This type of feeling is very common these days due to exponential advancement in technology over the last few decades.

4. Bad mood

Many people equate feeling out of sorts to having a bad mood. The former is a general sense of not being able to engage your full mental resources on the current activity. All bad moods may result in feeling out of sorts but all ‘out of sorts’ feelings aren’t caused by bad moods.

Let’s say you catch up with a friend after finishing an exam that you both appeared in. He tells you that he messed up the paper. It was your usual practice to play basketball for an hour after exams to relax your mind after 3 hours of the grueling exam session.

But on this particular day, your friend refuses to play. He says he’s feeling out of sorts. It’s not rocket science to guess that he’s in a bad mood because of the messed-up test but you have to understand what’s going on in his mind.
He hasn’t yet ‘integrated’ the negative life event into his psyche and made peace with what happened. He wants more time to reflect on what happened and what possible actions he could take to avoid this in the future. Most probably he had prepared well for the test but still didn’t do well. That’s what causing the storm of confusion in his psyche. No way is he playing basketball with you.

Compare this to another friend who also messed up his test but knows that’s because he was ill-prepared. He’ll also feel bad for a while after the test but he won’t feel out-of-sorts for prolonged periods of time. It’s because he’ll have dealt with bad mood by promising himself that he’d be better prepared in the future. No storm of confusion in his psyche and no reason to reflect and brood. Also, no reason not to play basketball.




After reading and thinking about how I was feeling, here’s what resulted:

1. Took a brisk, invigorating shower to “wake up” my physical” body and try to feel helped some.
2. Ate a super healthy breakfast and took vitamins to fuel my hunger was satisfied.
3. Started drinking more water today to help flush my system...need to feel more hydrated.
4. Forced myself to get some’s helping.
5. Thought about recent events and the accumulated effects of my concerns and worries and put them in their proper places with some perspective...this forced me to face reality of several problems and come to terms with setting boundaries and realizing the problems that are under my control and those that are not.
6. Gave myself “permission” to take it easy today...feels good to have some pressures removed today.
7. I’m now feeling that the “fog is starting to lift” and I’m beginning to return to feeling like myself.

For laughs...
All of that being said, maybe it was just too much Halloween candy and sugar??? Daylight Savings Time and changing the clocks last night??? lol
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