Trying to stay on the down low
Monday, February 10, 2020
I am a doer not a watcher and that can get me in trouble sometimes.
If I encounter a frustrating situation caused by someone else, my first inclination is to just say I will do it. Over the last several months since my aunt died, I've been overseeing my uncle's care. His DIL did a great job of getting him through the surgeries but his day to day stuff is all me. I am fine with that because I am his closest living relative, having grown up next door to him.
I have had a couple of opportunities to step in and do things and hubby has warned me about getting involved. Unless it's a quick hit, something where I can make a call and accomplish something, he's advised me to stay away. I am getting better at it.
Same thing at work. I've found that others on my team come to me with their problems but not any suggested solutions. What's that about? I was taught to never ask your manager without a reposed solution. So in the work environment, I've gotten pretty good at saying "What are you going to do about that?"
It usually stops the conversation.
I have been just staying on the down low. Tending to things for hubby and me and the girls. Paying more attention to my needs. I've refocused on what's worked in the past: exercise, meal planning and prepping, and you know what? I lost 2 lbs last week!
Less stress leads to better choices, more sleep, and more down time. Triple win!
So as time goes on, I am going to try to keep it on the down low and take care of myself.
P.S. For all those interested, my uncle is doing a lot better. Still sleeps alot but he is 89. His color is good, his attitude is great and he's feeling well. That's all I can hope for.