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Decision made

Sunday, May 31, 2020

Hi 👋 Spark ⚡️ Friends - I had thought I was going to have Bariatric surgery. Specifically, gastric sleeve surgery. Elective surgery pushed this off from Monday, June 8, 2020 at 7 am to Monday, September 7, 2020 or later. Despite Convirus-19, I did get fairly quick medical attention because I possibly had cervical cancer. Turns out I do not but have physically gained weight - due to excessive stress, medications, limited ability to exercising after outpatient surgery due to bleeding from my groin area, etc. Respectfully, after telling me I now needed 3 or more minor outpatient surgery (throat, cardiac and lungs) tests to get clearance for future Bariatric surgery- I finally made the hard decision to NOT have Bariatric surgery now. I have plenty of good examples here plus the support of a great persons -like you, Bea and many more. Thanks for letting me share with you my choice without judgement or recriminations. My family is very disappointed & vocally upset 😡 with my decision. Have yet to explain this to them in person - so I am slugging through this. I ask you for prayers support and words of affirmation/support.
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  • SILVAS7
    Support is so important, and sometimes families think they are being supportive .... just remember ultimately you are the one that has to live with your decisions. Let us know how we can be praying for you and how we can encourage you ! emoticon emoticon
    67 days ago
  • SPARKNB
    Congrats on being cancer-free. Sounds like, with finding 3 other surgeries...who *knows* what else they find doing those, plus recovery, plus being in a hospital right now during covid IS a risk—at least more than it used to be, plus if you already have 3 issues...adding *another* surgery to also recover from...sounds like now is not the time. *MAYBE* it was meant to be...*maybe* you are supposed to *REALLY* work your program, and make progress via spark (& any other resources, like Spark Coach, OA, WW, Noom, food delivery services, online workouts/a virtual personal trainer, a nutritionist, etc. Some might be covered by insurance, others could be what you would have spent on surgery-adjacent costs). One person that I know that was successful (plus a sparkticle I saw) said to treat it like a job.One way would be to get very active in teams, & set a certain number of spark points (it's pretty easy to get 100 daily, I can sometimes get 300, if I do everything on my spark page (& I haven't yet used my free trial of spark Coach). Also, talk therapy might be useful; nowadays, with covid, there are some free ones available too. Also, OA has online and esp. PHONE meetings...can be SO USEFUL. At points I've done the 30 meetings in 30 days thing, sometimes multiple meetings in a day (or night) and it can be a good focusing tool. Good luck!
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    69 days ago

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  • TWEDEE777
    You can do it without surgery. Take it one day at a time.
    69 days ago
  • SABLENESS
    Prayers for you. Hope your family ones around to support your decision. If they don’t, you have us whatever you choose. emoticon
    70 days ago
  • 7STIGGYMT
    Great new concerning cancer! I one seriously considered bariatric surgery. After looking at those that did have it, I chose not to have it. But that was my choice.
    70 days ago
  • JACRBUNCH
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    70 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Glad you did NOT have cervical cancer. That's the good news of all of this.

    As for your decision re; not having bariatric surgery, I applaud you for doing what is right for YOU! You are right to do what's going to be the best decision for yourself. Doesn't matter what others think, because they're not thinking of or having the surgery! '

    Blessings.
    70 days ago
  • ISNESS
    So good that no cancer!! Now you can hang in here and slowly, steadily lose the weight, gaining health and strength. I like your decision!
    70 days ago
  • LIZANDRASHAW
    Good news about the cancer! That's a relief.
    70 days ago
  • POINDEXTRA
    This is a very personal.decision that only you can make. Definitely check out Indygirl's blogs. She's been successful despite gargantuan challenges, and you can be too!
    70 days ago
  • DDUNN917
    I totally agree with all you posted. I had the sleeve. Became an alcoholic gained all weight back. Addictions are horrible. Some people smoke dont eat. Some gamble dont eat. Others drink dont eat. Give them all up and you eat. Ugh.
    70 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    Sending prayers to you. You have to do the right thing for you. Take care.
    70 days ago
  • 1DAY-ATA-TIME
    I wish you the best going forward. emoticon
    70 days ago
  • HMBROWN1
    What a great outcome from the cancer scare! I was told that I likely had advanced ovarian cancer and it wasn't until the hysterectomy that it was confirmed to be something else. So, I know how scary it is living with that hanging over you! Best wishes on your decision. I hope that your family supports you!
    70 days ago
  • KOALA_BEAR
    I think you've made a wise choice. Health is what matters so focus on that both attitude & strategy. W/ your medical issues ask Dr if you could consider IF but if not, eating less processed food & more produce will help + counting calories.🤞
    70 days ago
  • SLIMMERKIWI
    I'm really pleased that you do NOT have cervical cancer.

    You have to do what is right for you, not what is right for others. You shouldn't have to justify yourself, and they should be supportive of your decision.

    You can do this but you have to have faith in yourself. Most of weight-loss comes down to nutrition, however it can be made more difficult when there are medical issues (not least being hypothyroidism) and medications to be taken into account. When this happens, we just have to work that little bit harder. I have lost approx. 60lb by reducing calories alone. It took 16 months to lose the first 50lb. I always ate a very healthy diet, and in a healthy range, but for me it was too much. (Confirmed by my Registered Dietitian who saw various print-outs from SP Nutrition Tracker. In fact, she told me what I was eating was what they would NORMALLY put someone on to lose weight.

    Just make gradual changes to your nutrition (and drinks) and weigh everything, and put it into your Nutrition Tracker. By analyzing the results you will be able to see where you need to tweak. If you haven't already got one, ask your Dr for a referral to a Registered Dietitian, and take some print-outs to look at. If you make some poor choices along the way. Don't go beating yourself up. Instead just climb back on the wagon and continue with your healthy choices.

    You can do this. You CAN do this!! Just have faith in yourself, and you will be surprised what follows.

    Hugs,
    Kris xxx
    70 days ago
  • LOPEYP
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    70 days ago
  • AOKDIET21
    All things take time and this too shall pass.
    70 days ago
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