At What Point Does Helping a Person Become Enabling a Person?
Sunday, September 27, 2020
It's a fine line between helping or enabling, and yesterday a month-long stressful period blew up even though I continued to be patient and calm. If a person isn't willing to do what is deemed to be in their best interest, well, sorry but I'm outta here with helping. It breaks my heart, and I'll still do a small something behind the scenes occasionally, but this has been 24/7 drama since 8/26 and I've begun getting physically ill over it.
If you have ever dealt with anyone bipolar, you know that you never know which person you are going to get. Or when they will disconnect from logic. There was just no talking to her yesterday, so she pulled everything I was storing out of here and is now homeless. So be it. My heart is so broken over the entire month and fear for her future. To protect identity, I've just referred to her as a family member. But this is a very close person and, again, my heart is so very broken.
But no matter how much I did (a lot), or gave (a lot), it would never have been enough to pull the situation through all that needs to be done. The bottom line is that if a person doesn't want to get mental help, that is really the foundation on which everything else rests. So, now I have to figure out how to live with this incredible sadness and fear for her future.
But, alas, friends... I know how to figure it out. And I will. In the meantime, there will be some tears and lots and lots of prayers (as always.) Wishing all a lovely day.
"I could dance with you till the cows come home. On second thought, I'd rather dance with the cows till you come home." Groucho Marx