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Letting Go Again

Saturday, October 31, 2020

Funny, I’ve been thinking about Halloween—celebrated in Latin America as part of Dias de los Muertos, or Days of the Dead. In pagan tradition too, it is a time for honoring those who have passed. I was thinking to acknowledge my father’s passing in a different way, but was startled to realize it’s been more than a year, which I discovered when I reread my blog Balancing Gifts and Demons which I wrote on 9/10/19:

I misremembered that he passed away in early November last year, because that’s when my sister and I flew down to our ex-stepmom’s to spend a weekend with brother and SIL who came in from Turkey, and to see a number of old family friends who gathered for a party—people I hadn’t seen in decades. It was a lovely visit & I’m glad he brought us together.

In journaling this week, I discovered an old belief I picked up from him is still having a negative impact on me. I’ll delve into that in a separate blog, but it reminded me that sometimes we have to let go more than once. Also, it seemed appropriate to use this time, not to honor or celebrate a life that has ended, but to confront & address the demons that relationship bequeathed.

It is never too late to examine or banish the burdens and negative ideas that we have picked up from others—no matter how long ago. We can always choose new behaviors and thoughts that are more empowering and nurturing. Wishing us all a Happy Halloween and Sacred Samhain, and good mental health!

Blessed Be, Amanda
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    Great blog, kiddo...thanks for sharing with us!! emoticon
    147 days ago
    Thank you for your wonderful blog. I have so many relatives who have already died - now that I am 77 that would be expected, but some deaths have been easier to accept than others, and for some there have been mixed emotions.
    I admire your thoughtfulness!

    156 days ago
    Oh letting go is constant in life.

    Sorry about the passing of your Dad. My Mom passed away 3 yrs. today. Doesn't seem possible.

    167 days ago
  • ROBEC4175
    Well said!
    167 days ago
    With the recent death of my mother this was very timely. Overall we had an OK relationships, but all relationships come with good and bad. And it is a reminder that it is never to late to delve into old relationships and gain some healing and health.
    Thanks for sharing.
    167 days ago
    Thank you for sharing...
    Maybe I should revisit the positives and negatives from those in my past that are possibly impacting my present and my future. and maybe it is too late for me to get out of my rut(s) and build new paths.

    168 days ago
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