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Let’s make the holidays OK

Wednesday, December 02, 2020

I am *really* embracing the concept and goal of doing OK, as opposed to trying (and failing) to do “my best” (because with my brain, I can always imagine a way to improve or do better). Recently I had wanted to go for a walk, but saw it was getting later than I had wanted to start, with the prettiest light fading. But I reminded myself it could be an OK walk—it didn’t have to be a great one. And it turned out so much better than I had hoped for: I got to watch a full moon rising and see some lovely early Christmas lights—delightful sights that filled my heart.

That encouraged me to reach out to my sister to sound out the notion of settling for “OK holidays.” We often spend Christmas or New Year’s together, and have certain traditions we enjoy, but can be stressful to try and make happen. With this year in particular it’s hard to say what will be happening in the next weeks. Per the governor’s request and example, we spent Thanksgiving in our separate households, and though I would have enjoyed the company, I spent a very relaxed holiday on my own.

I think it’s especially important for people to let go of expectations of how the holidays should look and be this year. I’m not saying we shouldn’t celebrate, but maybe we can simplify, by enjoying a few activities or traditions that hold the most meaning—or are the easiest to do. Many of us have less energy, support, and/or resources this year, so it makes sense not to compete with or compare to past years. And if “OK” doesn’t feel good to you, remind yourself that “Good enough is good enough.”

Wishing everyone a safe, healthy and happy holiday season!
Blessed Be, Amanda
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  • ROBEC4175
    Thinking of you often and love the OK is OK attitude. emoticon Happy for you and your enjoyable adventure.
    76 days ago
    emoticon Sister!! I really appreciated it when you floated this idea with me, and am liking it more and more!! This has been quite a year, and rather poop-y in many ways. Easing off the holiday expectations sounds like an EXCELLENT thing to do!! Thanks for sharing... emoticon emoticon
    83 days ago
    As you know, we're trying t listen to CDC guidelines in our house, because our state just isn't giving guidance. I told Jim and Miss B that since we are avoiding crowds, and 2020 isn't like other years, we could have a "what do you think would be fun but out of the ordinary" kind of holiday. That's resulted in we plan to order Chinese in for one meal. Miss B said it would be nice if I got to enjoy the day without having to spend half of it in the kitchen. WHAT A GIFT! (and yes for me this is a gift. The gift of time.) Parties that were canceled or we backed out of will be replaced with a fun movie at home or a trip to see Christmas lights (drive-thru please!). We are making it a household adventure. The theme is "less stress and enjoy the mess," according to Miss B. I am assuming "the mess" is all the changes to the December calendar.
    84 days ago

    I have been practicing making "The Holidays" ok for many years..

    so, this pandemic has not really made a difference in my world
    although it has added a new excuse for the why merely, ok..

    86 days ago
    That moon was spectacular.
    And I'm loving "Good enough is good enough!"" too. You're on a roll!
    86 days ago
    86 days ago
    emoticon It is important to let go our expectations and look for ways to simply enjoy each moment and not get stressed out. Thanks for sharing this timely blog.
    86 days ago
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