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Wow JMI406,

I like the way you think and appreciate your insightful post.


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1/20/16 1:47 P

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Hi,
I ended a 33(+) year relationship just 3 days ago. I'll admit that it was not easy and I had misgivings about my decision. This relationship was not a romantic involvement, but was with the person that I had considered my "best friend" since I was 12 years old. This was the person that I spoke to almost daily and who had witnessed most of the biggest moments of my life.
But when I looked at my situation from the outside, I realized that I would advise anyone in my position to move on. I was not getting the emotional support I needed, I was not feeling fulfilled by the relationship, nor did I feel respected or valued. My hard work as a full-time university student was not valued as "real" work. My health concerns were downplayed; my life threatening auto-immune disorder was frequently compared with their eczema. In short, I was not happy.
I have not yet felt a bit of remorse. I actually feel relieved that I do not have to go through one more day of emotional care-taking to a person who did not offer the same in return.
I would much rather be on my own than with someone who does not value me as the amazing person I am.
I know it is hard to consider ending a long relationship, but you deserve to be happy and you deserve to be loved on your own terms!
Be good to yourself, you deserve the best.


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I am sending you well wishes

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Hello Gypsiesole,
Time to become your own best friend. What would you advise her?
I have found equal happiness in a relationship and being on my own. The pros and cons are different for each and the only really challenging time is the transition to being solo or becoming part of a relationship.
If you are able to sit down with this man and rebuild the relationship from the foundation than that may be a good option. (Setting agreements as to how the relationship will be.)
Emotional abuse is abuse and can be just as harmful as physical abuse. If this cannot be changed than it is time to move on. Let me know how it goes. You do have my sincere empathy!


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Hi Ladies
I just turned 70, am quite introverted and yet am a retired RN. How's that for being an oxymoron? Anyway, have been in a relationship with a man 5 years my senior, for 16 years (yes, I'm ashamed and embarrassed to admit this as you'll soon see why). He has declared that our relationship is a "committed one" and yet has NEVER, EVER called me his partner, his girl friend, significant other, etc. I am his "friend". He has always had other "women friends as well throughout our relationship and, in fact, is texting one daily at this time. There is not and never has been physical abuse but definitely emotional abuse and total disrespect for me as a human being. I have few friends because I live in a very rural area where the church is dominant and I am not a member. I am trying desperately to break the ties that bind me to this man but really could use some support and encouragement of other ladies out there. FYI, I am an educated woman with a Master's Degree so it's not like I'm stupid intellectually, only emotionally stymied. Make sense to anyone? Anyone out there with similar circumstances who could advise? Any help would me most appreciated!!

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