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The Chicken Breast Got Burned And I Am Still Swimming In The Same "Waters"

Thursday, December 20, 2012

I have been feeling very frustrated lately with Noel, my husband. I do not stand him retired, at home all day, without helping in anything at home, nor doing something with his life. He sits, all day long, writing lists of all the things he wants to get done, but he does not start anything at all. He eats, sleeps, eats and sleeps and the circle goes on and on and on. I am exhausted with all the chores and the daily tasks I faced, all alone, every day. I feel so upset and so tired. In terms of my relationship, I am feeling so, so, so lonely and I think this is holding me back in terms of my Christmas preparation and enjoying this time with my family.

I need to stand up and put myself back to who I use to be no matter what was going on around me. I need to pick up the pieces of me and put me back, thinking that my happiness should not depend upon him, although is affecting myself so much, right now.
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  • KIM22211
    just put blinders on. I heard once, that which angers you, controls you. dont allow anything to control you! have a great new year
    2763 days ago
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    I know you wrote this in December and maybe things have changed some for you? On your feed today (June 6) you mentioned about needing to change some of your future plans and thanking people for their support yesterday, and I thought you had written a blog explaining what was going on.

    I would like to be of support, if I can. We are here for each other and I am happy that you feel friendships here are healing for you.

    I wish you a wonderful day today and always be kind to yourself no matter what others do to you. God bless you.

    Love, Chelsea emoticon emoticon
    2977 days ago
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  • ANGEL1066
    My dh retired 2 years ago and is still on the couch all day most days. Other than our garden in the spring, he has found no new purpose. What plans he makes do not make sense to me. You are not alone. Many men have a hard time with this transition. You can love and pray for your husband, but cannot put your life on hold while you wait for him to change. You might try encouraging any home improvement on his lists, or anything else you find agreeable. God Bless your endeavors!
    3142 days ago
    Hang in there, it is such a life style change when our husband's retire. I wish you all the best.
    3144 days ago
  • CYALE76
    Have you talked to him? Does he know how you are feeling? My husband usually gets laid off in the winter so I know how difficult it can be to have them home and under your feet all the time. A few years ago I had to put my foot down, at the time I was working a full time job coming home and still doing everything while he just sat here. After I talked to him he stepped up to the plate and started helping me out with things. You have to put yourself first, the most important thing is that you are happy and healthy you have to do what is right for you. I hope things get better for you and you are able to enjoy your daughters and your holiday. emoticon
    3144 days ago
    emoticon In any relationship WE must come 1st. Take care of you, and take time to sit down with hubby and share with him how you are feeling. Retiring from work does not mean home chores no longer need doing.
    3145 days ago
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