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Monday, December 08, 2014

It has been five weeks since I had rotator cuff surgery. I have to wear the sling for another week yet to make sure everything heals properly. I am so frustrated because I still can't do anything with my left arm. Every time I lift something my shoulder lets me know that it's not ready for that yet. I can't even sweep and wash my floors.

I have been very blessed because a lot of my church friends have come around me and helped me. I have been given meals from the Meals Ministry and one of the women in my small group even took all my laundry home with her and did it for me. One of my church friends who lives in my block said that she is going to continue to cook to make sure that I don't have to worry about preparing meals. I can cook, but I just can't use my arm do do the prep work. She treated me to lunch after church today and then gave me 5 meals to freeze for later in the week. She also came to my suite this afternoon and swept and washed my floors and vacuumed my living room for me. My son dropped by and brought me two free range chickens all cleaned and ready to cook. He said he can get more once I use those up.

I am still dealing with a lot of pain at times and I am still sleeping in my recliner. Hopefully I will be able to go for physio therapy after this week. I know my doctor told me it would take 3 to 6 months to heal properly, and that I wasn't do do anything to aggravate my shoulder. I am trying, but I am going stir crazy. Oh well, I'm just taking one day at a time. This too shall pass.


I am so thankful that I have so many wonderful friends who have helped me
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  • MAKULEWAHINE
    So sorry to hear you are having so much pain but am glad you are blessed with a supportive community. I haven't been on much because I am trying to stay off the computer. Too much sitting and not enough doing. I also had to buy a new computer so that kept me off for awhile. Thanks so much for the goodie. I really appreciated it and it lifted my day. Take care.
    2302 days ago
  • JUDITH316
    Came back to let you know you are being thought of today and are continually in my thoughts and prayers! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2344 days ago
  • JUDITH316
    Dearest Darlene,

    I want you to know you are always thought of and kept close in prayer, I think of you often and have been and continue to pray for your shoulder to heal and be totally restored. I totally understand your frustration, when one has been so accustomed to doing your own housework, shopping cleaning and looking after everything that needs to be done it is a frustrating experience when you find yourself depending on others and not able to do those things you once did for yourself.

    I too have been there, after my work accident I found myself totally incapacitated and couldn't do my own housework, laundry, shopping and even cooking was difficult, like you and what you shared already, I too had to keep giving it over to the Lord trusting Him to carry me through step by step, and that He did...I know what He did for me He will do for you my dear friend.. The Lord is blessing you with your Church Family who are helping and your friend cooking for you and washing the floors and vacuuming the living-room, that was so thoughtful. And your dear son bringing those chickens all prepared and ready to pop in the oven to cook. That's so emoticon

    I'm praying for your complete recovery and healing, bottom line; we are all here for you Darlene, we love you and appreciate you. Thanks for your valued friendship and for helping me on the Teams...

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    2345 days ago
  • OPALMOON
    Dear Darlene,
    I have been thinking of you and including you in special prayers when i light a candle for those in need. I couldn't quite remember the exact time of your operation and am glad it is behind you. I've been praying for all to go well with that and your recovery, and will continue to do so. Your frustration is totally understandable. Restrictions are very challenging, and i remember all too well how being house bound last year and having so much trouble wearing clothing felt as if I was being driven around the bend. I'm dealing with all that to a slightly lesser extent this year, thankfully, though I've had to accept the reality of dealing with chronic pain. I am so glad you have had all these wonderful friends to help you and hope they will continue to do so as and when you need them. Take care and thanks for taking the time to update us with your news. Praying for continued healing for you.
    Love and hugs,
    Nattacia

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    2346 days ago
  • CAROLFAITHWALKR
    So sorry, Darlene.

    When I'm really going off emotionally, I focus on something else. When rejected, I focus on Jesus' rejection. When frustrated, I look at the big picture from a world-wide perspective and then drill down to where I am in my life with my now-small problem, and it really makes a difference.

    You can intentionally change your paradigm by changing your perspective. The emotions FOLLOW the thoughts . . . be intentional about changing what thoughts you think . . . thoughts are like birds flying over, you can't stop them from winging by, but you don't have to let them build a nest in your hair.

    When I don't want to pray and don't feel close to God, I sing spiritual songs outloud (or at least hum) until my spirit gets in a right place to pray.

    Turn on Christian radio to help yourself, if you have a computer & internet go to KLOVE.com and click on the Christmas player. It's there 24 hrs a day. If you prefer older songs, hymns are in You Tube . . .

    Have a "day of Thanksgiving" (hour, 5 mins, etc) where you write or voice-record every blessing since . . . since the surgery, since Jan 1st, since your birthday, or since Thanksgiving, or since whatever you want to do. Maybe, just since you woke up today . . .

    Use the Christian disciplines to help you out of these tough places. Singing, music, prayer, gratitude, sitting in silence before the Lord. Light a candle (be careful though) and sit in silence and concentrate on blessing Him.

    Think of all the troubles everyone in the world is going through . . . and how many of them would gladly trade places with you.

    Most of all, know you are SAFE here to vent your frustration . . . we are for you and love you and support you and you WILL make it through this. There's not a single one of us who hasn't been similarly frustrated (and probably behaved worse than you are doing). It sounds like you're handling it all with as much grace and composure as you can, under the circumstances . . . this is what a "family of friends" is for, to do your laundry and cook and clean and demonstrate that "love" is a verb. Think about ea blessing you wrote about and say outloud, after each one, "I am LOVED!!" Because you are. Chickens - I am LOVED! Laundry - I am LOVED! Meals - I am LOVED!

    We are all in the process of becoming Women of Grace. Grace and peace to from our Lord Jesus Christ . . . Emmanuel; God With Us.

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    2347 days ago
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