Saturday, May 02, 2015
I am a huge Mary J. Blige fan. The My Life album is one of my favorites of all times. This blog is me letting everyone into my life and to start the healing process.
First, of all I had lap band surgery in 2012. My starting weight was 273 pounds. I weighed today and I am 273 pounds. I have gained 22 pounds over the past 6 months. This is issue #1. I thought having surgery would fix me. It did not. I never ate a lot to begin with, so having surgery did not help too much. Now I can't hardly eat at all. I see the doctor on June 4. I will have them take all of the fluid out of my band so that I can eat at least 1200 calories a day.
Professionally, 2014 was my 5 year anniversary as a business owner. Financially, I had a blow out year. personally, it was on the high road. I met a man in January 2014. He asked me to be his girlfriend in March 2014. I was like why not. He is a nice guy. Then all of sudden he had to work all of the time (night shift). I went to a lot of functions solo, with my famous line when my friends asked where he was. "He is at work." I dealt with it in the beginning, because I was busy with tax season and taking care of my clients. I didn't notice his absence much. Fast forward to the holidays and all of sudden he became missing in action. Someone sent me a picture of him on a dating website...blah, blah, blah.....! Me being a woman, I said something about the dating site, of course he lied. Then I started paying attention. Thanksgiving he was a no call no show. I was hurt, but I would not let my family see the hurt in my face. I kept a fake smile the entire day. Guess who called the next day? you guess it, the deceptive one. Of course, I didn't have any conversation for him. He lied about his phone being broken.....I was like whatever. That is when operation find out everything about him went into action. I found out he lied about his last name. Which prevented me from finding out other pertinent information about him.
Once I had the real last name. I did a little digging. Come to find out he is on WIFE #3!!!! needless to say. I got rid of his azz right after Thanksgiving. The deception has cut me deep. That I allowed someone access to my life and their purpose was to be deceptive. So needless to say 2014 my relationship WASN'T a relationship. It has been hard, but I am taking it one day at a time. I am not interested in dating anyone. I need to get me back together.
My lesson from that none relationship is do your research and trust very little!
Weight loss surgery is good for some people, however, it wasn't my success story. I have to continue doing what I did before surgery and that portion control and exercise.