My Life

Saturday, May 02, 2015

I am a huge Mary J. Blige fan. The My Life album is one of my favorites of all times. This blog is me letting everyone into my life and to start the healing process.

First, of all I had lap band surgery in 2012. My starting weight was 273 pounds. I weighed today and I am 273 pounds. I have gained 22 pounds over the past 6 months. This is issue #1. I thought having surgery would fix me. It did not. I never ate a lot to begin with, so having surgery did not help too much. Now I can't hardly eat at all. I see the doctor on June 4. I will have them take all of the fluid out of my band so that I can eat at least 1200 calories a day.

Professionally, 2014 was my 5 year anniversary as a business owner. Financially, I had a blow out year. personally, it was on the high road. I met a man in January 2014. He asked me to be his girlfriend in March 2014. I was like why not. He is a nice guy. Then all of sudden he had to work all of the time (night shift). I went to a lot of functions solo, with my famous line when my friends asked where he was. "He is at work." I dealt with it in the beginning, because I was busy with tax season and taking care of my clients. I didn't notice his absence much. Fast forward to the holidays and all of sudden he became missing in action. Someone sent me a picture of him on a dating website...blah, blah, blah.....! Me being a woman, I said something about the dating site, of course he lied. Then I started paying attention. Thanksgiving he was a no call no show. I was hurt, but I would not let my family see the hurt in my face. I kept a fake smile the entire day. Guess who called the next day? you guess it, the deceptive one. Of course, I didn't have any conversation for him. He lied about his phone being broken.....I was like whatever. That is when operation find out everything about him went into action. I found out he lied about his last name. Which prevented me from finding out other pertinent information about him.

Once I had the real last name. I did a little digging. Come to find out he is on WIFE #3!!!! needless to say. I got rid of his azz right after Thanksgiving. The deception has cut me deep. That I allowed someone access to my life and their purpose was to be deceptive. So needless to say 2014 my relationship WASN'T a relationship. It has been hard, but I am taking it one day at a time. I am not interested in dating anyone. I need to get me back together.

My lesson from that none relationship is do your research and trust very little!

Weight loss surgery is good for some people, however, it wasn't my success story. I have to continue doing what I did before surgery and that portion control and exercise.

Be Blessed..

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    1532 days ago
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    Well... you've not been missing in action as much as I thought. I didn't notice this blog until just now. I was getting ready to post a comment on your page and then noticed it.

    I am sorry to hear about the difficulties you faced last year, but, I hope this year is shaping up to be better. Losing weight AND keeping it off is truely for the strong and diligent and I know that description fits you. When I was in loosing mode and even now, in maintenance, tracking everything I eat along with moderate exercise, is the key to my success. It's time consuming, but, when I think of the alternative (gaining weight), it becomes one of the most vital things I can do for my physical health and peace of mind. It's a part of my lifestyle now.

    I am sooo happy you got rid of the "lying user". You deserve waaayyy better. I sure feel for his wife. She must be going through pure you know what. I hope you've healed emotionally. I use to have a business geared towards single women and one of the things, in a situation like yours, that I'd always asked them is, "what signs did you ignore in the beginning and why did you ignore them"? I'm not asking you those questions... just sharing. Give love another try. Mr. Right is out there for you.

    Take good care of yourself and keep on keeping on.
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    2116 days ago
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    The good news is you survived - lived to tell your story your way! The creep is gone and your on your way to a healty happy you...

    I would say don't close yourself off to love walking in... he wasn't for you to begin with and once you found out the truth you got rid of him asap. Getting yourself together (taking care of YOU) will be the best gift to yourself.

    Glad your back!
    2186 days ago
    Sorry you met that creep but I am very happy that you have given him the boot. I have a similar situation happening right now that I am not ready to talk about because I am almost at the end of this mess.

    But sending you emoticon and a high five for getting pass it. Better days are ahead!

    2189 days ago
    Hey girl,

    I'm so happy to see you back! Thanks for the update and I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out with your surgery and deceptive relationship. Losing weight and getting healthy is a hard road, but know that it is possible. Wishing you the best! emoticon
    2195 days ago
    Free at last!

    Free to be me (I mean "you" but "me" rhymes)

    Make you a better you and you have completed the ultimate accomplishment

    Make today the greatest day of your life

    emoticon Until tomorrow!

    2196 days ago
    2014 sounds like a rough year. Glad you got rid of his azz!

    Hope with some of your lap band fluid removed you can start to get enough calories and to lose weight. emoticon
    2196 days ago
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