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Saturday, March 17, 2018

Today, in the Spark Coach discussion session, it has been a chat regarding "moderation" and Sparkguy ask us to think where is there no moderation in our program, because moderation, has been said to be a clue of success in the program. Well right now I can not think about an "All or nothing" in my program, but I do have an "all or nothing" in my life that eventually is affecting my weight loss program. Isn't that something that this small chat he had with us today opened my eyes to a problem area in my life that doesn't have to do directly with my program? Well I do think about "all or nothing" regarding house keeping and house chores. If I can not do everything, absolutely everything in my long list of house chores, then I feel like a failure and that stops me for the rest of that day wishing that a new day comes fast, so I can start all over again and be successful, but the tragedy of this circle is that it has become a never ending cycle that is stopping me to live a healthy live.

I have been reflecting on this matter and I had discover that it comes from my childhood that way I have been raised. Back then, at home, for each single day of that week, there was this long list of house work, chores an duties for each one of us and if we do not finish it, then to the room we went and our day has ended. So I figured out that I am recreating my childhood life in my adulthood and I am punishing myself for not been perfect in all aspects of keeping my home perfectly clean and organized. Wow, I am hurting my health and my self because I can not perform that "all or nothing" in my housewife life. So I guess I have a long journey getting myself out of that thinking and bringing moderation into that situation so moderation in my program can come up and I can keep going my healthy journey to having a healthy weight loss and a healthy life style. Isn't that valuable that I have to hear that life saving chat today, so I could understand why I shut down my self if I am not perfect at home? Wow, life changing chat that one of today at Spark Coach Program. Thank you Sparguy!!!
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    Here's to your new insight and adding moderation to your journey!
    1230 days ago
    What a wonderful opportunity to discover this. Even though I'm retired, I like to do other things each day than clean, so I have a cleaning schedule. On Monday........, Tuesday............, Wednesday........., Thursday.......... and Friday........... Then, on Saturday, my day is free. I enjoy movies, reading, sewing, seeing friends. With each day's tasks--and only about 2 hours each day--then I feel I'm ok doing some fun things.
    You also could think of this as balance--and you need balance in your life to be healthy and seek health. So, enjoy yourself a bit each day.
    1232 days ago
    I was raised the same way. Work before play and often there was no time to play with all the work we had. Very exhausting. You are wise to change.
    1232 days ago
    Glad you recognize the role of perfection in your life. It is a set-up to fail. Best wishes as you continue your journey.
    1232 days ago
    Sometimes “close enough” is a good motto for housekeeping.
    1232 days ago
    You have trememdous insights and I appreciate that you shared them!
    1232 days ago
    I used to beca perfectionist and then I started engaging in different mediums of art. I found happy imperfections that are better than what I intended. Think about that idea as you journey.
    1232 days ago
  • MAYIE53
    Congratulations on that amazing insight you have come up with. Knowledge is power. I think that now that you are aware of how you have such unrealistic expectations for your day to day life, and that you have been subconsciously recreating your childhood, that you will make great strides in changing this. You sound a lot like me, only my area is not especially housework. I wish you the best in this aspect of your healthy lifestyle journey.
    1232 days ago
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