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11/15/10 11:00 P

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We had to shorten my son's questions. For example the questions in the 4th grade science book for lesson reviews were almost a paragraph long! The teacher typed up shorten, to the point questions that had a similar answer to the regular question and my son's anxiety was gone! Of course we still have other problems but thankfully that was one fix. Also is your child in any therapies? Sensory issues are huge for my boy, and what bothers him one day could be a comfort the next. It's always a challenge, but my love for him will never be!

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11/7/10 2:20 P

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Sorry to tune in so late. That sounds so frustrating! It's hard to troubleshoot these sorts of situations when we don't find out about them until they get so extreme.
I agree that it sounds like he is being overwhelmed with the amount of work in front of him. Earlier this week, my kidlet was asked to do 4 math questions, but he saw a page of questions intended for the next day on another table, and had total meltdown - it wasn't even on the same table, but it caused him so much anxiety that he wasn't able to focus on the work in front of him! It's very important to break the work down into manageable pieces!
But I do want to add that my little guy does run into issues when he has growth spurs too. Between the brain development and discomfort with health issues and extra demands on his body blood-sugar-wise, a growth spurt just seems to be a period of extra stress for my son. We have learned that we sometimes need to ease up on demands and give him a little extra comfort during times of rapid growth.
But you know your child better than anyone. If that doesn't ring true to you, disregard it and keep looking. It really does sound like the teacher may be looking for excuses to not change her own behaviour.
Good luck, and keep up the good work advocating for your child. I hope it gets straightened out soon.

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11/3/10 9:39 A

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Dee797, Ok, I know the aide as a shadow. Thanks for clearing that up for me. He did have a shadow back in kindergarten and first grade when he first started mainstreaming. I sure will call for another meeting if this does not get better. Having an aide for him might be the next step. Thank you all sooooo much!! I appreciate y'all and your information/advice! emoticon

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11/3/10 7:10 A

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Monikell, an aide is a paraprofessional, someone who is trained to work one-on-one with the child. Kinda like a shadow who goes to each class with the child and modifies the work if necessary. My ds, is now 19, but he had a aide from 2nd to 12th grade in his previous school. The aide also wrote in a communication book each day as to what went on in each class and any homework that was assigned.

You should never give a child with ASD more than one paper at a time, and if need be less than that if it overwhelms the child.

If the teacher does not modify the work according to the IEP, or there are still problems with how she relates to your son you can call for another meeting to get things resolved. I'm suspecting she thought she could get away with some things because your son couldn't tell you otherwise or so she thought, that is my Mom gut talking.

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11/2/10 8:47 P

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Definitely sounds like a case of the teacher not fully understanding his needs! I would NEVER ever put more work than the One thing that currently needs attention in front of a child with any type of learning difficulty,especially a child within the autism spectrum! Its far too overwhelming! My son would likely throw the papers right back at the teacher and take a fit explaining to her that there is no******ing way he can do all that work in the time she expects it done! (not to condone that behaviour of course) but that is where he goes when he is over stimulated or over stressed!

Edited by: BEENIEMOM at: 11/2/2010 (20:52)
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11/2/10 5:21 P

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BeenieMom, I soooo agree with you about the educators. My son is in an special needs class and his teacher did not think he can explain things to us as well as he can. She was shocked when I called her about a situation that he explained to me. Anyways, when my son acts out at home we take care of the problem, the majority of the time we can figure out the problem basically by asking him.

Dee797, My son isn't on meds. The only different thing is that he has a new teacher. We truly think that the work is overwhelming him and the teacher is not taking her time at explaining the work to him. One day she put all his work for the day right in front of him, and of course he went off. I called her and explained to her to only put one paper in front of him at a time. It's ashame that I had to explain this to a special needs teacher. Dee797, when u say aide what exactly do u mean? And yes his IEP does require modified work and testing. We just had the meeting for this year last week, so we will see if she applies this, because before the meeting the homework seems like it's for regular ed children.

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11/2/10 2:47 P

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It can be SO dificult to work out what is triggering unusual/new behaviours! We've had a crazy week, with DS being really upset - his teacher had told them "We'll be breaking up for the holidays at the end of the week". Took me a week to find out that being "broken up" is terrifying!!!
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11/2/10 2:10 P

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My son, 10 now, really didn't have many acting-out behaviors until he turned 8, although I suspected his Asperger's diagnosis for years before that.

I think there are hormone/body changes in many children at this age. Also, with us, we coupled that with the addition of two little girls to our family when he was 6 and 8, and we're not sure what triggered what, but life has been a bit more of a challenge since then. Good luck!

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11/2/10 6:52 A

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I agree with Beeniemom, if there has been a growth spurt his meds, if he is on them, may need to be adjusted. Also if the school environment has changed that could be causing the behaviors. If he is not understanding the work that would also cause the behaviors to occur. Have his normal routines been disrupted or any other changes occurred at home?

Is your son in regular or special needs classes? Is his teacher a special ed professional? Does he have an aide? Does his IEP require them to modify his school work and/or homework?

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11/1/10 10:10 P

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ps ....has he been on meds.......if so then the growth spurt could absolutely be a factor as the meds might need to be adjusted due to growth or weight gain!


and has he been eating differently as many of our children are highly effected by certain foods or certain combinations of foods!

Edited by: BEENIEMOM at: 11/1/2010 (22:11)
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Hi.....I would be inclined to think it has something to do with the school work possibly frustating him....but Im not the educator...and obviously not there! Could there be anything new going on in the classroom that makes him think of home(if he does this at home as u say) or could it simply be that he has somehow thought that if he can continue to behave like that at home then why not do it at school to......especially if in doing it he gets out of some expectations! You have to try and think outside the box to figure it out but sometimes the answer is soo simple you end up wondering why u didnt figure it out sooner!
My son repeats certain behaviours for reasons that have to do with something that happened four days prior.....as he holds on to the frustration for a few days and then reacts for what seems like no reason until you go back through the last few days!

It will often puzzle you! Best of luck!

You also may (or may not) get the most honest answers from the educator......most are wonderful ....but if the problem is the teacher........she wont want to admit to that(dont kill me people)...just my opinion from some experience!

Edited by: BEENIEMOM at: 11/1/2010 (22:49)
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11/1/10 7:44 P

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Well I really need advice. My 8 year old autistic son is having some behavior trouble in school, he has never had this problem before in school. For some reason he is falling out of his chair, yelling, throwing his paper and pencil and does not want to do his class and homework alot of times. The teacher is saying maybe because he had a growth spurt that this is the reason he is acting like this(I don't think so). He has never did this in school. He did it at home, well still does. We don't know what to do about this behavior. We don't know what is triggering this(almost every day). At his IEP meeting we bought up that he doesn't understand some of the work, but the teacher tried to brush it off and say that he is doing this for attention. Which we don't agree with. I really would love to hear some advice and/or techniques to try. PLEASE HELP!!

Sorry, I should have mentioned this earlier. he is NOT on meds.

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