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7/22/09 9:36 P

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OOH Kids.

I have no problem walking up and asking them if their mother taught them to speak to people like that. Then, finding their mother and telling her that I'm concerned that one day their child's inappropriate comments will get them into trouble.

Or, asking them if there is a problem. And when they say no, because they will, telling them that if there is no problem, then they should find something better to do with their time than to be rude to people.

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7/22/09 3:45 P

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You can't change the past, but you can change your future. nExt time you see them and thy make a comment. Stop and talk to them. Educate them, because ignorance is not bliss. If they are talking this way now how are they going to talk when they are adults. FInd out who their parents are and talk to the parents if you can.

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7/22/09 11:07 A

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Ignore rude comments like that and move on.

**LINDA**

Weight loss is accomplished with the mind.


A person who wants something WILL find a way....a person who doesn't will find an excuse.

Which do you prefer?
The pain of self discipline?....or...the pain of self regret?






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Well sad to say some kids dont always have manners.., dont let little things get you down.. kids should know better thou.. i know it would upset me too

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7/21/09 3:38 P

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Clearly ill-mannered brats. I think it's a good idea to stop and point out how hurtful they're being. Most kids, even teens, will be shamed into feeling guilty for what they said. If they're not, they're headed for jail anyway, so why worry. Keep up the good work!

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7/21/09 3:35 P

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I guess that why I am a member of EE. I would have been hurt and I would have found it hard not to eat over it. I would probably found a new route for my next walk. I am a feeling person. I deal with most things on how I feel about it. Not good, but it's my DNA. I have had my feelings hurt about my weight. It doesn't feel good. Sorry, it happen to you. Just keep going.

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7/21/09 3:31 P

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I'm with unicorn15. Her comment was great! I would never come up with a come back that quickly though. Ignoring them was good too. By not acknowledging them, you are letting them know that what they say doesn't affect you. You are doing a good job, try to move on. emoticon

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7/21/09 3:26 P

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It's amazing how total strangers can be so cruel. I totally sympathize with you. I remember one night while I was walking along a street, some young delinquent beggars called me a fat (insert c word) because I didn't give them money. While I would have loved to give them a snappy comeback, I didn't think it was wise seeing that it was night time, and there was no telling what they would have done. I just took a deep breath, hurried along, and reminded myself that I was not what they said I was.

I remember once when a man I didn't know, but who knew my mother, who is overweight, told me, "You're getting just like your mother!" and I replied in my sweetest voice with a big smile on my face something to the effect of "You mean beautiful, intelligent and charming? Thank you!!!" He immediately shut up!

I'm learning that confidence and charm are great weapons against people's ignorance. :-) You have to know that you are a FABULOUS, even when other people don't say so. You're a fabulous woman on an exciting life journey. You're fabulous at your current weight, and you will also be fabulous at your goal weight. Don't let those foolish boys destroy your "fabulousness" nor the hard work you are doing to live a healthier lifestyle. Peace and blessings.

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7/21/09 3:16 P

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If only words didn't hurt so much. So sorry that they had to be mean. The old sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me, doesn't always work now hey. Have a good day.

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7/21/09 3:00 P

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Okay, so my first thought was to put down a quote that I say over and over in my head here at work (not because of my weight, just because I work with morons). lol "What other people think of you is none of your business."
But these kids made it your business by being loud. So I say, next time turn around and tell them the only reason you're big is because you ate the last kid that made fun of you and you haven't worked him back out yet.

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I have to agree with Marty's comment. I spent too many years ignoring those comments from strangers. I would always tell myself that they're just ignorant because I'm a good person and I don't deserve that. But I felt like I was letting them berate me and say rude things to me without defending myself. One time I was walking down the street with my friends and some kid looks at me and goes, "And look at this fat b**ch!" Without a word, I turned around and gave him the finger and kept moving. He was stunned.

I think when we sometimes ignore those nasty comments, people don't learn the lesson that its not cool to do. They keep doing it. Especially kids. I never let a kid get away with making fat jokes in front of me or about me. I'm a person with feelings too and you're not going to get a laugh at my expense or spew your nastiness on me simply because you think its funny to make fun of fat people. On that one occasion I didn't go about it the right way, but I definitely let that jerk know that I wasn't going to just be pushed around and picked on.



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7/21/09 11:12 A

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I was shocked that a friend of mine told me that now that she is post menopausal and having trouble losing a little bit of weight that she will never think badly of those who say they have trouble losing. Hmm -- so she used to think that? I always look at heavier people exercising and think wow I wish I could do that. They are stupid kids - haven't
matured yet.

I am not losing this fat - I am removing it for good.

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7/21/09 10:52 A

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BrierW - I have to echo advise others gave you. Don't take them too seriously. Teenagers think they are funny buy making derogatory comments to people. I had something similar happy this weekend. Two 20 something women drove by my house on Saturday and screamed at my partner and I that we were "Stupid _iches". I burst into laughter. My partner was very hurt. I looked at it from the perspective that they were very sad people if that was their idea of fun.

You can't control what other people do, you can only control your reaction to them. Keep your chin up and doing what your doing.

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7/21/09 10:02 A

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I have to say, I used to think the same way as that boy - but now I see the light. I see people walking, running, biking and I think good for them, they are getting healthy and working so hard at it. I admire anyone I see making the effort. The kids are young and have no life experience. The words are hurtful and that is that, they are only words. You can't really retaliate. If you are brave enough I'd just say "excuse me but I heard that comment and if you meant it toward me I understand, but as you see I am working on my weight and I would appreciate your support, not your rude comments". People are so stupid. Just remember that.

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7/21/09 9:24 A

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I actually like the comment "I can lose weight, but you cant change stupid" Thanks for let me let off some steam with you guys. I did ignore and continued walking.

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7/21/09 8:15 A

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So Sorry SASI_QUEEN, I totally agree with Marty...Ignorance is not bliss when it makes one look like a fool.(and those kids look like fools) These kids today have no respect and if it means making a comment to get them thinking, then GO for it. The other day I was in a store and 3 children were running and flew right in front of me and scared the p**s out of me. Out of my mouth flew "What's the deal. Didn't your parents teach you to say excuse me???" The 3 looked at me like I was from Mars...Later I heard them telling their Dad (while laughing)what I had said and he wasn't laughing. Maybe my comment to the children hit home for All of them, including the Dad. My mother always told me my mouth would get me in trouble.

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7/21/09 8:12 A

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we do not have the power to control what others say and do, but we do have the power to control how we react to them. Just move on. You know you are making healthy choices, you are doing what needs to be done, be proud of that and ignore some rude comments. Don't let it derail you, you are then giving your power to these kids.

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7/21/09 7:35 A

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I would have said, "I can lose the weight, but you cannot lose your stupidity" I hate comments like that. They just irk me.

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A person who wants something will find a way..
A person who doesn't will find an excuse...



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7/21/09 6:32 A

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I agree. Though my gut instinct would be to fire back a Kippy comment.....the less said...the better.....use it as fuel....for the fire within.....to move forward.....visualize the day you go back that they are standing there....jaws dropping cause they don't believe how much weight you dropped.....at that time...you can look casually off your shoulder (that is so skinny now)......and say "thanks guys...it worked".........

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7/20/09 11:40 P

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Amen Bittygirl,thats exactly what I would do....kill em with kindness in some way or quietly pray for them ....but I would never stoop to their level even though I might secretly wish to say something rude back at them!Kids are thoughtless sometimes and teens just love to act like their something in front of their peers(some do)You keep up your walking and dont let rude people get you down....you are doing what is best for you and you are awesome!

Without forgiveness life is governed by...an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.

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Wow...we really are an "emotional bunch" aren't we? I disagree in most part with what everyone has suggested here. Although I am very sorry you had to come in contact with some very rude youngsters who obviously haven't been taught any manners - don't let them steal your victory, Hon! By responding back - you are lowering yourself to their level...remember this one thing: "hurting people hurt others"....so shrug it off, whisper a prayer for them and keep marching...you are doing great!


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Little jerk--I'm sure he'll get what's coming to him--they always do--hold your head high & keep on keeping on....sorry that happened to you..

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7/20/09 9:47 P

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They are just kids. They are going to grow up and life will take it's natural course and give them their own opportunities to learn empathy. Today they belittled someone else so they could appear clever in front of their friends. That's all that is going on. None of it has anything to do with you.

I'm sorry that you got your feelings hurt.

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What is essential is invisible to the eye. ~ Antoine de St Exupery


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I'm really so sorry you had to hear that. Kids can be such brats. I wouldn't let that bother you.



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So sorry that you were disrespected like that. Consider the source and keep on going.

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Kids can be cruel sometimes. I am sorry you had a bad expeience. Hold your head high because you know the truth.
Hugs!!

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that is terrible!!!! kids have no respect these days....jail is deff more like it!! I have a big mouth and would have said probably something not so nice back. Of course, i would then be stooping to their level. i think you did the right thing, keep going like you didn't even hear them. They were obviously trying to get a response out of you. Take your anger and put it into a good workout...i always burn a lot more when im angry/ticked off. One day you'll prove them wrong...and you'll be strong enough to give their butts a good kickin ;)

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7/20/09 9:23 P

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Some people seriously do suck. It's really unfortunate that they weren't raised better. That being said, other peoples opinions of you are just that...opinions. Do not let what others say affect who you are and what you're doing. You're on this journey for you. Forget the naysayers. I know that others words can cut like a knife and it's hard to not let it. Either ignore it or give a sassy comeback. "Really? Do you have the number?" Keep your chin up.

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Some people are so rude, inconsiderate, thoughtless, mean...I could go on. I'm sorry that happened to you. I've had the same sorts of things happen and it does make you mad and it hurts your feelings. But the thing is you are doing what you need to do to get healthier, letting some punk kids affect you doesn't do you any good. Just know that you are making these changes for yourself. You'll lose the weight...you'll get fit and healthy. Not sure where people like that will ever get in life (jail comes to mind), but you deserve to lead the life of your dreams and that's what you need to focus on...not some rude, obnoxious boys.

Can you tell this makes me mad?! I really like Kippy's response!!

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You gotta learn to give it right back to them...like "Geez, your mothers must be SOOOOOO proud of you."



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I am so mad I could scream. Here I am walking with my friend in the neighbor hood, like we always do. We passed this one house and there was some older boys outside, which is not unusual. As I walked by one of them said "Someone should call Jenny Craig" I pretended not to hear. Now I know they where talking about me, because my friend is pretty skinny. I asked her later if she had heard she didnt and told me they are kids ignore it. I try but when I am trying to lose weight and am walking for exercise and have lost some, it makes my efforts seem like nothing.

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